With ravishment, OTOH, a theme of nonconsent is not fundamental and the scene can be overtly consensual throughout.Įffectively these two themes fall on different points on a spectrum of violence, seduction, and consensual nonconsent. If a rape fantasy were acted out as play, of course prearranged consent would have to be established, as well as safewords because playing a nonconsensual scene is fundamental to the rape theme. The idea is that two people have such a passionate interaction that the top loses self-control, and "takes" the bottom and "has his(/her?) way" with him/her. The essential theme of ravishment is seduction and loss of control. In my experience though, this isn't what most folks have in mind who have a "rape fantasy".Īn alternative term that is being often used in particularly kinky circles to describe this softer sort of fantasy is "ravishment". Yes, it's true that some people have a fantasy that approximates this. The common idea of the actuality of rape (which AFAIK is often the reality) is violent and brutal with overwhelming force used to overpower and violate the victim. This is likely similar to #1 where the fantasy is more toward domination and less toward actually raping someone.īecause I've encountered groups of people who have relatively genuine rape fantasies, I think it's worth distinguishing that from the more common "forced" fantasy. It's easier to enjoy something like that in a movie when you know, in the back of your mind, that it isn't real. With that said, there are many people who can view rape scenes in movies/porn and be extremely turned on by them, but if they were ever presented the same situation in person that fantasy would evaporate and they wouldn't be able to stand by and watch, let alone participate. If you fantasize about raping someone, you can actually carry out your fantasy against the will of another and that is problematic, to say the least, if ever acted upon.ģ. Those who see themselves on the other side of the fantasy are a different story. By its very nature, a "rape" fantasy as the "victim" involves some level of consent by the person because they actually want it, otherwise it wouldn't be a fantasy. Most people don't have true victim rape fantasies, just domination fantasies.
I don’t want to be raped, but the truth is that I don’t want to be penetrated by a man unless I somehow sense, from the way he moves or from the odd glint of of cruelty in his eyes, that he feels the heedless beast raging inside him and has the urge to let it run free.ġ. So, we watch men behaving as predators, and it naturally excites us to see male power taken to its extreme logical conclusion. Fortunately, the vast majority of men, at least in modern societies, have these tendencies under control, if not because of good cultural training, then because of the threat of retaliation or legal punishment.īut the basic truth is that there is no useful distinction between the prominent features of normal male sexuality and the capability of a man to force his phallus into another person.
That some men will rape is inevitable under the prevailing genetic conditions. Compared to women, men are by nature generally more sexually focused, physically stronger, and more violent. We enjoy depictions of rape because rape has a lot to do with male sexuality. I love a good rape scene, or at least I do if it has an attractive male perpetrator (or victim-thank you, Joseph Gordon Levitt).